Dear heart on a healing journey,
There was a season in my life when everything looked fine from the outside. I had the degrees, the smile, the calendar filled with responsibilities. I was doing what was expected, what I thought success was supposed to look like.
But inside, I was barely holding on.
My thoughts ran like a reel I could not pause. Not enough. Too much. Failing before I even began.
They were old stories, most of them not even mine. But I had accepted them as truth.
One quiet evening, I stopped running from myself. I was sitting alone when I realized I had never truly listened to what my mind had been saying to me. Not with judgment. Not to silence it. Just to witness it.
And what I heard broke my heart.
You are not lovable.
You always mess things up.
You do not belong anywhere.
That night, something shifted. I asked myself, Whose voice is this?
Is this my truth or is this my trauma talking?
It was the first time I stopped living in service to my mind and started leading it.
Iyanla Vanzant often says, “You cannot heal what you will not reveal.”
And she is right. I had to sit in the discomfort of the truth.
Not the truth about the world.
But the truth about what I had been telling myself for years.
I did not need to be fixed.
I needed to be reclaimed.
I needed to come home to myself.
Dr. Daniel Amen reminds us that the brain is the hardware of the soul.
It is where every memory, belief, habit, and emotion is filtered through.
If your mind is constantly under stress, filled with survival thoughts and inherited stories that no longer serve you, how can you expect peace?
How can you even hear yourself?
Your mental health is not just about coping. It is about ownership.
When you own your mind, you stop letting your thoughts run you.
You interrupt the automatic loops.
You challenge the programming.
You learn to respond, not just react.
Tony Robbins says, “The only thing that is stopping you is the story you keep telling yourself.”
That question became a turning point for me:
What story am I still rehearsing?
What identity am I still clinging to that no longer fits who I am becoming?
Owning your mind is not about being perfect.
It is about becoming conscious.
It is about being the one who decides what is true for you.
It is about leading yourself with compassion and truth.
It is about showing up for your thoughts, especially when they feel heavy, and reminding yourself:
You are not powerless inside your own head.
I once worked with a client who believed she was broken because she kept attracting emotionally unavailable partners.
She had a beautiful heart, a sharp mind, and deep empathy.
But her inner story was shaped by a childhood belief that love had to be earned and chased.
We traced the pattern.
Challenged the thought.
Found the root.
And when she saw the truth, she cried. Not because it hurt,
But because for the first time, she saw herself beyond the wound.
That is what it means to own your mind.
You step out of survival.
And into sovereignty.
So let me ask you this:
What is the loudest thought in your head right now?
Who gave it to you?
And are you ready to put it down?
You are not your trauma.
You are not your anxiety.
You are not your diagnosis or your past.
You are the one who gets to decide what happens next.
This is your invitation to stop surviving your mind and start leading it.
Write down the thought that keeps showing up.
Say it out loud.
Then ask yourself: Is this my truth?
Or is this someone else's fear I have been carrying?
When you own your mind, you take your power back.
You begin to think like the version of yourself you have always wanted to become.
You begin to choose from love, not fear.
You begin to speak to yourself with reverence, not criticism.
You begin to come home to yourself.
And that is where your healing begins.
With you on this journey,
